Meeting

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Adorable Girlfriend
on May 16, 2008
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AG is in a scientific meeting today. Laying smackdown, no less. AG will be back up and running later tonight. AG is in a room half filled with Jewish doctors.

Oh yeah!!!

P.S. From the post last week: We are heading for Istanbul (and Israel and possibly Greece will be visited!)

P.P.S. Did I mention that the New York Yankees were at my hotel?! Well they were and my team got the suites while they got regular rooms. I guess Corporate muscle is better than some silly boys who hit a few balls! Just sayin’…

Too Little Probably Too Late

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on May 13, 2008
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There is someone who was once in my life that none of you know. He is no longer inside the winner’s circle. I treated him awful. Just terrible. And for that I am very sorry. I told him several times how sorry I really was. I don’t know if it was ever heard. Well, today I am unloading the guilt.

I am sorry for everything. I am sorry for having been spoiled and rotten and not treating you the way you should have been treated. I am sorry for what I did and what I did not do. I will always love you and I will always want the best for you. So, if one day we should bump into each other, I hope you will give me a hug and tell me that somehow you found it in your heart to forgive me. Even if I just know your life is better than ever — that is enough for me.

Did you ever carry around stuff like this? It sucks. The load is just too heavy right now.

I want him to know I forgive him.

And for the other person who I have been holding onto stuff since 1992, I decided tonight — I am letting it all go. It is all gone. Let’s stop pointing fingers back at each other! We spent too many years doing a destructive tango. You did your best, you loved me in your own way and I know you will never know it, but at least I can say it. I forgave you sometime around 23 October 2007. Your tears that cold October afternoon will mean more to me than you will ever know. She wanted to see that day come and unfortunately it took for us both to become so vulnerable that we could barely breathe to see our divide and grant her that wish slightly too late. Gosh, the time we wasted being madder than a group of bulls in the pen waiting for the man with the flag was such a waste. We may never right our wrong, but I do forgive you. And I want you to know that.

Wow. I really feel better!

Smackdown is Coming

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on May 13, 2008
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AG just found this site. This is the first thing listed on there:

Top Ten Reasons Why American Women Suck

1) Selfish - to the point where they don’t know the difference between love of self and plain downright greed–and drilled into believing that whatever happens is the fault of whatever man is in their life because of the feminist crud drilled into them by the cadre of asexual closet cases called “therapists” who appear on “Ricki”, “Oprah” or other such electronic drivel

2) Deluded - into thinking they “deserve” a rich, model-handsome husband who will “take them away from all of this”–whatever the “this” might be–and leading to resentment when they discover that the universe does NOT revolve around them

3) Angry - ALL the damn time about things which are so far out of their control as to be nonsensical–and constantly wanting to “discuss” this mind numbing drivel ad nauseam

4) Psychotic - multiple personalities in the same woman - as “Nomad” put it in the “Star Trek” episode: “Woman…a mass of inconsistencies…”, and also when the feminist voices in their heads start with the regrets and victim acculturation

5) Worthless - anything that does not immediately resolve itself in her favor or to her benefit is meaningless to her, especially husband and family

6) Lazy - drilled into their head that they “deserve” a maid, nanny and personal slave to take care of every detail - and that their husband/boyfriend is REQUIRED to cater to their each and every mindless whim

7) Resentful - especially of other women who have things that they do not, in material, spiritual and esoteric senses

8) Greedy - to them, “housekeeping” means getting the house in the divorce (thanks to Zsa Zsa for that immortal line) and sucking the guy for every last cent, even if they had nothing to do with the building of the nest egg

9) Mindless - constant, irritating, idle prattle about topics they read about in some women’s magazine and then become instant experts–particularly pop psychology and the latest crap they see on “Oprah” or “Ricki”

10) Vain - believing that they are irresistible to everything in pants and therefore are allowed to behave sluttish and without any honor.

AG will respond tomorrow. Please have at it comments and then we’ll come back to a discussion. The only thing that will be said now is that these kinds of sites suggest why we are in real trouble. Real trouble!

Gender Studies 101

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on May 13, 2008
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I heard about this post just yesterday. Unforutunately this week is going to be very busy, so I was not able to get to it right away.

There are two points that are worthy of a brief discussion here. The first is that I believe men can and should be included in the feminist movement. I can speculate on why some believe they should not be, but that is not the point of this post. That is their stuff to work through and we don’t share those opinions so we are certainly not going to defend or post them here as a means of deconstruction which in some ways can validate them in the process.

Bottome line is that it is my contention that men should be included because if nothing more than the simple fact that you cannot make change or solve things without all parties at the dinner table. Men have an important role in this process and their voices are no less important than others. Especially since there are men who are more than happy to give up their priviledge in return for equality. So, why shouldn’t they be at the table alongside of their female peers working for change and new infrastructures?

The second and more important point, to me, is the last sentence:

To my mind, feminism is about gender equality and freedom of choice to enable girls to be boys, and boys to be girls, and girls to be girls, and boys to be boys, all the shades in between.

While I believe this statement is well intentioned, and there is no doubt of this because the author states it is merely his opinion, feminism is a whole lot more than that. I think he constructs his argumet to keep it simple for the reader and that is acceptable. However, I wish to be very careful about suggesting that feminism is that simple, because it is not.

Monday Confessional

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on May 12, 2008
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After the dust and glitter has settled from Mother’s Day…it’s Monday and you know what that means.

AG’s confessional this week:

I cried in front of the Rabbi today. It was due. It’s been about a year since I cried in front of a stranger. He pushed too far and judged without thinking about how I might feel. I just wish that I could be left alone sometimes about that topic. Don’t get me wrong, I am all super AG, but there is one thing that when said to me can get me to a state I do not want to be in. He dared to go there and he is probably feeling bad. I left him feeling guilty by saying something to the fact that his daughter would easily go to tears as quickly and he’s her dad! I could see he felt bad as I made the quickest exit possible.

What are you going to confess this week?

{best picture ever}

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on May 12, 2008
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From Cute Overload…

Pug + Eames Lounge = Awesome

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{on being useful}

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on May 12, 2008
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This month’s Esquire has an article entitled “75 Skills Every Man Should Master”.  Unsurprisingly, the list contains some of the usual hetero/sexist bullshit (in addition to the title…I may be able to check “Give a woman an orgasm” off my personal list, but it hardly strikes me as a crucial life-skill for all men), but it’s an interesting read.  I wonder what would be on your personal list?  Here are a few of Esquire’s items that I liked:

1. Give advice that matters in one sentence. I got run out of a job I liked once, and while it was happening, a guy stopped me in the hall. Smart guy, but prone to saying too much. I braced myself. I didn’t want to hear it. I needed a white knight, and I knew it wasn’t him. He just sighed and said: When nobody has your back, you gotta move your back. Then he walked away. Best advice I ever got. One sentence.

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Pick Up Lines

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on May 11, 2008
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I think this might of been a pick-up line when it was said to me over the weekend:

Will you slum now and again and eat pizza or a cheesesteak? You can still wear the pearls.

Saturday Schlock

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on May 10, 2008
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AG doesn’t care what you have to say because AG hearts both of these songs (And for that someone special — I can easily count 1-2-3-4 in the first!):

and

Yes, AG hearts Jewish boys in music too. It’s just how she rocks and rollz.

Life in the Modern World

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on May 9, 2008
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Look at the little gem found in the New York Times yesterday.

Let’s pick the best, and mind you, the entire read is a landmine:

One of the reasons that Mrs. Clinton is resolved to keep fighting is, I think, a resentment that she and many of her followers feel over sexism in the campaign. On that issue, she has a point. One of the political lessons of this year — backed by psychological research and polling data — is that the bar is probably higher for a woman candidate for president than for a black candidate.

It’s interesting that two strong women — Katie Couric as well as Mrs. Clinton — have foundered this year in roles that are stereotypically male. Granted, the presidency is very different from the job of an evening news anchor, but some psychology experiments suggests that one factor in each case may be public resistance to a woman in a position in which we are accustomed to seeing a man. One of Mrs. Clinton’s legacies will be that she will make it easier for the next woman candidate.

Let me begin by stating it is Ms. Clinton. The use of MRS. is another way of calling her a dyke, cunt, bitch, whore, insert your preferred anatomy derogatory word of choice. It’s used as a tool to remind us that she should shut the fuck up and get back in the kitchen. Nothing more, nothing less. While the sentiment is true, Snag informs us that the Times mentions their choice here for Mrs. We will respect that, though I could take it to task, but won’t bother for the purposes of this post, and for our purposes continue to call her Ms., unless she contacts us and asks that we draft changes to our manifesto. (If she calls, can someone get AG Chelsea’s number, k?) We certainly mean no disrespect to Ms. Clinton.

These kind of apologetic ad hominems have become so pervasive in society. It’s like you can say anything you want because you’ve already excused yourself from being a misogynist.

I have to wonder what editorial letters would show up if he wrote — Clarence Thomas as well as Barack Obama — have founded this year in roles that are stereotypically black. My bet is that it would be redacted by the paper and removed. It might be said in whispered hushes, but at least race issues have moved to that point. The dumb bitch, cunt, girl, the old Mary Tyler Moore slam comments are still said outloud and until they stop — we are in real trouble. Real trouble.

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